I publish this blog because I like to communicate. I want people to read my stories, maybe even engage in conversation. Of course any public appearance can also attract the wrong kind of crowd. Especially on the internet, where about 70% of all traffic comes from bots, crawlers, scrapers, search engines, AI agents, hackers, scammers, spammers….. and only a few legitimate visitors.
My blog is protected with a premium security plugin and I watch the logs on a regular basis.
Lately I’ve seen a surge in visits from a user agent called “Bytespider”. That thing was trying to get onto my pages continuously, supposedly from Singapore. Thousands of blocked attempts every day. I was curious. Turns out that this is an AI scraper designed to train the Chinese LLM “DeepSeek”. I really don’t want to help feed any AI machine for free! So, even though none of these bad agents made it through my firewall (yet), I educated myself on a few other strange visitors to my webspace and hardened certain aspects of my WordPress backend.
A few more plugins installed, certain IP-ranges blocked, and voilá – less unwanted visitors.
In the summer of 2015 I bought my first smart phone. That Nexus 5X was a big step up from my previous favorit Motorola RAZR, not just in technology but also in size. I had a problem with that. How do you carry this “huge” thing around without turning into a dork? So, after toying around the idea of making my own phone carrier pouch for a while, building a prototype out of cardboard, perfecting my design, I came up with this device that I call “ExxoPok”. invention of the ExxoPok
As soon as people saw me sporting that invention I got requests to make them one for their phone. After giving away about a dozen to friends and family, I set up an Etsy shop and made my first sale in December of 2015. Over the years I made and sold about 150 of my phone pouches. The price I charged was just about enough to cover the cost of making them. I never intended to turn this into a serious source of income, it was just a fun hobby. In September of 2019 we moved to Germany, so I put my Etsy shop on “vacation” to give me time to settle into my new life.
When I thought I was ready I opened up an Etsy shop in Germany and also built my own shop on my personal webspace – to practice HTML5, using a free shop with ECWID. buy an ExxoPok from me
Since I didn’t advertise and didn’t really care if I sold anything or not, there was hardly any activity on Etsy, or on my personal page. In December of 2023 I made one sale on Etsy. Somebody bought a Christmas present for her friend. At that point I calculated Etsy’s listing fees against my “profit” from that one sale in four years and decided the whole thing wasn’t worth it. I closed the Etsy shop and removed the payment methods from my personal ECWID shop. Done.
Along came December 2024 when I received an email from Eve in Oklahoma. She had found my personal website and tried to purchase an ExxoPok for her iphone 7. Because there was no payment method linked to that shop anymore she couldn’t pay.
So I made an exception for her and I also linked my Paypal to the ECWID shop again. Today I received a very nice message from my surprise customer with a picture of herself carrying ExxoPok number 160. She likes it.
I am officially retired after over 46 years of gainful employment. This new life stage is a chance to count the blessings, reorient myself, focus on new goals and the road ahead. To gradually ease into the big change I started weeding out my digital presence and social media networks. If you happen to be one of the people who got “deleted”, don’t take it personally. It’s not that I don’t “like” you anymore – it just means that I don’t think our interactions would be deep and meaningful in the future.
When you spend time on social media, clicking on names of people or pages, after a while the algorithm starts showing you different ads. It thinks your interests have changed. When I noticed the change I realized that I don’t pay attention to ads anymore. We are all being bombarded with ads for products and services online, offline, in magazines and papers, on TV and radio channels, in our news feeds and social media accounts. The average person “sees” between four and seven thousand ads per day. Or, actually, we don’t see them. The phenomenon is called “ad fatigue”.
There are entire industries researching why ad fatigue happens, how to prevent it, and how to measure success in advertising. I personally don’t need to advertise anything – my life doesn’t depend on making money by selling myself, or my products, or my ideas. I wish, though, that advertisers – or their products and services – would consider my needs better, offering the things that I often search for and have no luck finding in the endless flood of useless ads.
So, what is it, that I need/want and would actually buy at this point in my life? Abraham Maslow had a pretty good grip on what motivates people. He discovered a hierarchy of human needs and depicted that as a pyramid with initially five steps. He later realized there was something motivating the people at the top of his pyramid to even higher levels of achievement and postulated a sixth step. I agree, the top is definitely there – transcendence is the pinnacle.
I am old enough to have worked my way up the pyramid to the fifth level. I have food, water, clothes, a house, a social life, friends and family, I reached (almost) my full potential. I am actively pursuing level six now. I frequently dig through the internet, searching for something that I’d spend real money on – and can’t seem to find. So why can’t Google, or Amazon, or any search engine, deliver the results that I am searching for? Simple: advertisers don’t realize that there is this untapped target group of potential customers at the top of the pyramid.
I don’t “need” shoes (something from level 1 or 2 of the pyramid) for example, but I do buy shoes often. I like shoes. Very specific shoes. It took me years to find a manufacturer or two who make “my” kind of shoes. So, if you are selling shoes, you’d have to pay close attention to what I am searching for (mostly attributes from level 5 and 6 of the pyramid) and then target your ads to deliver on those search terms – unless you really don’t want me to buy your shoes.
When I am looking to buy new shoes, here’s what I would typically search for: “wide shoes handmade in Europe out of genuine leather with flat heal and round toe box”. Now, if you’d offer my size, favourite colour, easy return policy, and payment via Klarna – we’re in business. Even if your shoes are “expensive”. Or, maybe, especially if your shoes are “expensive”.